He walks into a room and all the attention is directed towards him. His mannerisms, his confidence. Without saying a word, he silently own the room.
I am sure that we have all experienced something like this, and I am also sure not one of us has said, “Wow, killer posture”.
The truth is, is that posture is boring and it is not a sexy word, while at the same time it is one of the few things that determines how we perceive and feel about others.
Dale Carnegie said that there are four ways, and only four ways, in which we have contact with the world:
- What we do
- How we look
- What we say
- How we say it
Notice that “how we look” comes before “what we say”?
Those who consistently give off strong first impression understand this and are well aware that first impressions are formed the second they are seen, not the second they are heard and their body language and facial gestures reflect this at all times.
They know that what they do gets us to the door, how they look determines if they get in, and what they say and how they say it determines if they stay.
This may not be fair, but whether we like it or not, “Does he/she look the part?” is a question that everyone asks themselves quickly and instinctively and that a great deal of the message we are sending out into the world is coming from our bodies.
Looking the part is comprised of many little details, from your eye contact to your hand-shake to your body language.
Confident people dress the part, control their body language, present themselves clearly and are attentive and when all the details come together a look of confidence is achieved.
These little details matter and – luckily for us – they can be amended with a few small changes that anyone can do as long as you recognize the need for improvement.
Making a killer first impression:
A survey by Accountemps, which specializes in global temporary staffing services for accounting professionals, says a majority of interviewers form a positive or negative opinion of job candidates within 10 minutes (just 10 minutes when the person´s job is to be as objective as possible)
10 minutes for a job interview, what about on the street?
Princeton psychologists Janine Willis and Alexander Todorov conducted experiments which show that it takes less than the blink of an eye, one/tenth of a second, to form an impression of a stranger.
One tenth of a second. Obviously not a lot of time to give someone an incredible impression (unless you last name ends with Pitt or Aniston – yes I hope they get back together).
The good news is that, according to this Forbes article on how to make a killer first-impression, a simple, small adjustment in the way you stand or how you angle your shoulders can completely change how people see you.
Dr. Drew (no, not the MTV one), author of Red Carpet Posture, said it best when writing:
Posture is expressed by your body from head to toe. It is the alignment of your head, body, spine, shoulders, hips and feet all in relations to one another. Your posture is a statement of who you are, and it is important to have good posture to express to others and yourself that you are confident and to be respected.
Telling the story through body language:
We may not realise it at the time, but our body language does most of the talking for us. People are quickly and naturally drawn to confident people who make them feel safe. Now does that sound like the person slouching in the corner or the person demonstrating strong posture with a nice smile?
Here at Corpore Wear we know that “posture” is not a sexy word, and that if we had ten cents for every time we overheard someone say, “Man, that guy has great body language” we would still be 10 cents short for the bus, but at the same time, posture is ever present in how we judge others and how we are judged in return.
The next time you get ready to walk out the door to go to work, the gym, or a social gathering, take one last glance in the mirror, and put on the one accessory that makes every outfit complete, strong posture.
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